Belonging

 

 “Our level of belonging can never exceed our level of self-acceptance”          Brene Brown

 

This past Saturday night at the refuge we talked about the season of Lent and what it means for us.  It’s just a weird coincidence but our 40 day theme at the refuge is “into the wild”.   In our community, there’s a wide range of feelings about God, from angry to ambivalent to passionate to loving to a whole long list of expletives.  I love people’s honesty, but it is so different to so many other church-y experiences I have been part of over the years where there’s a general assumption that most everyone there is somehow excited and looking forward to “connecting with God more deeply and intentionally.”   I shared that my one hope for each of us during the next 40 days is some how, some way, we’d become more comfortable in our own skin and in our relationship with God.

To me, Lent is a stripping away season to get to more of the essence of who we are, who God is.  I don’t think this is the only time it happens, hopefully we are always in that process.  To me, that’s sort of the purpose of “the church” no matter the shape or form it takes–to help us grow in love for God, others, ourselves.

I love what Joan Chittister says about Lent:

It is a call to remember who we are and where we have come from and why.  the voice of lent is the cry to become new again, to live on newly no matter what our life has been like until now and to live fully.  It is even more than that. It is the promise of mercy, the guarantee of new life.  It is the resin that keeps our souls melded to the Spirit within–despite the pull of chaos and waste and superficialities on our spiritual moorings.  Lent is our salvation from the depths of nothingness.  It is our guide to the more of life.” – from the liturgical year


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Acceptance Beyond Approval

 

 

Earlier this year, celebrated novelist, Anne Rice, created a Facebook update that turned into a media proclamation that caused quite a reaction by my fellow christians. She communicates that she’s still a fan of Jesus but giving up association to christianity.

Another popular and heated newsworthy topic among christians this season is the construction of a Muslim mosque at the former site of the World Trade Center towers.

Both of these issues have elicited a christian response that doesn’t mesh well with the character of Jesus I receive from the gospel story. 

The excessive confidence in determining whether Anne Rice was right or wrong in her decision confuses me. From my study it appears less than 5 times in the gospels that Jesus provides a quick and direct answer to questions. Far more often he tends to respond to questions slowly and creatively by means of parable or paradox. Seldom does he provide a black and white answer like the loudest and most public christian figures seem to today. More often than not Jesus went the route of advocacy and acceptance. Voicing approval or disapproval came later if at all. (See woman at the well, woman caught in adultery, Zacchaeus in the tree, etc.)


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